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March 25 New Post: Silencing From Narcissistic Parents: "I wasn't allowed to talk about my feelings, thoughts and experiences, and if I tried to I was told to shut up or get over it."
March 21 New Post: A New Course on How to Break Through the Defenses of Narcissists?
March 2 New Post: A Psychologist Speaks Out About People Estranged From Their Family, and Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Speak Out About Suicidal Thoughts, Scapegoating, and Losing Their Entire Family of Origin
February 4 New Post: Part I: Some of How Trauma Bonds Are Formed with Narcissists
January 15 New Post: Do Scapegoats of Narcissistic Parents Get an Inheritance? Are There Any Statistics on This Phenomenon?
December 15 New Post: For Scapegoats of Narcissistic Parents: "I'm being invited back into my family after being estranged, and I'm pretty sure my parents are narcissists. Have they changed? Is this an apology or something else?"
November 3 New Post: The Difference Between Narcissists and Those with Antisocial Personality Disorder: Narcissists Feel Shame and Regret for Hurting Other People Even When it Doesn't Have to Do With Empathy, and Antisocial Personality Disordered Do Not
October 16 New Post: Why Shaming Your Children is Not Effective, How Narcissists Respond to Feelings of Shame, What You Can Do if You Are an Adult Child and Your Narcissistic Parents are Still Playing the Shame Game, and How to Start Healing from a Lifetime of Parental Shaming
PERTINENT POST: ** Hurting or Punishing Others to Teach Them a Lesson - Does it Work?
PETITION: the first petition I have seen of its kind: Protection for Victims of Narcissistic Sociopath Abuse (such as the laws the UK has, and is being proposed for the USA): story here and here or sign the actual petition here
Note: After seeing my images on social media unattributed, I find it necessary to post some rules about sharing my images
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News and new developments pertaining to partner/spousal abuse and laws

News and new developments pertaining to partner/spousal abuse,
and partner/spousal abuse laws


* From The New York Times: Man Intentionally Drove Into Wisconsin Holiday Parade, Police Say: Live Updates - The caveat here?  here?  An excerpt:
Mr. Brooks had been free on $1,000 bail in an earlier criminal case, in which he was accused of running over the mother of his child in the parking lot of a Milwaukee gas station with his maroon 2010 Ford Escape earlier this month. A spokesman for the district attorney’s office on Monday described the state’s bail recommendation in that earlier case as “inappropriately low” in light of the seriousness of the charges, and “not consistent” with office policy ...
     ... Darrell E. Brooks Jr., who is accused of driving his maroon 2010 Ford Escape into the Christmas parade in Waukesha, has a long, violent criminal history — and was freed just six days ago on $1,000 bail after being accused of trying to run over his girlfriend with the same S.U.V.
     Mr. Brooks, 39, who is from Milwaukee, has been charged with or convicted on an array of charges over the past 22 years, including battery, domestic violence, cocaine possession and resisting arrest in several jurisdictions in Wisconsin.
     He has served at least two jail sentences and spent years on probation and in court-mandated work-release and anger management programs, records showed.
     On Nov. 2, Mr. Brooks was arrested in Milwaukee after the mother of his child accused him of punching her in the face in a hotel room, then following her in his S.U.V. into the parking lot of a gas station, where he hit her with the car, according to the police.
     
My note: This goes on throughout the country. Domestic violence is not taken seriously and some offenders are allowed to go free on very little bail money. 
A reminder: people who commit violence to their "loved ones" (said facetiously,  of course) are capable of committing violence to others. Domestic violence is still violence, and many perpetrators still have a violent mindset when they are let out on bail.

* From People Magazine: therapist Vanessa Reiser runs 285 miles in a wedding dress to raise awareness and money for "Tell a Therapist", a service that helps you find and afford a therapist if you are experiencing narcissistic domestic abuse. The journey takes her from Oswego, New York to Manhattan, New York. She hopes to raise $200,000. Her individual website is: NYSNarcissisticAbuseRun.com. The story is by Joelle Goldstein, May 4, 2021. 

*Some states in the USA are considering laws against "coercive control: and Hawaii already has one on the books:  A New Frontier in Domestic Violence Prevention: Coercive Control Bans - article from Ms. Magazine discusses this new frontier. Story by Carrie N. Baker

*The first petition I have seen of its kind: Protection for victims of Narcissistic Sociopath Abuse as of this time 28,375 have signed. Basically it is a call for new laws such as the UK, Ireland and Scotland have about emotional abuse of children and coercion and threats in partner abuse.


*Women get the right to check a partner's background under new domestic violence law in Great Britain - news story in the UK publication, The Daily Mail

Excerpt: 

People will be able to check whether their partners have been domestic abusers under new legistlation.

Clare's Law - which is named after a mother who was murdered by her ex - is set to be unveiled tomorrow ...

... Also included in the package is the assurance that domestic abuse victims will no longer face cross-examination by their abusers in family courts.

The new legislation will introduce the first statutory Government definition of domestic abuse to specifically include economic abuse and controlling and manipulative non-physical abuse.


What Defines Domestic Abuse? Survivors Say It’s More Than Assault - by Melena Ryzik and Katie Benner for The New York Times: discusses new legislation being considered by some individual states as well as the US government (lead by Congresswoman Cori Bush) on what constitutes abuse. 
Excerpt:
Ms. Bush’s candor comes as some state lawmakers, working with researchers, have begun to reshape the law to acknowledge that the controlling and isolating behaviors she cites, often referred to as “coercive control,” are not only steppingstones to violence, but can be criminally abusive in their own right. Activists hope that by broadening the definition of abuse, they can help victims reclaim their autonomy, and catch perpetrators before cases spiral toward hospitalization — or worse.

In September, California passed a law that allows coercive control behaviors, such as isolating partners, to be introduced as evidence of domestic violence in family court. That month, Hawaii became the first state to enact anti-coercive control legislation. A similar law was introduced in the New York legislature.

The efforts address what experts say is a common, long-held misperception that an abusive situation is only a partner throwing a punch, rather than an incremental constricting of someone’s life, to dominate them.

The Atlantic Magazine takes on gaslighting: The SNL Sketch That Perfectly Mocks Our Upside-Down Reality (The show finally got satire right ... with the help of Hello Kitty.) - by Megan Garber
     The article discusses how Merriam-Webster, the dictionary, called gaslighting the "word of the year" with a 1,740 percent search increase over the last twelve months. It is a term used primarily in domestic abuse situations, where victims are told they are crazy and not perceiving things right, but now it has entered the world of politics in a grand way where a politician will claim that we aren't seeing things the right way and that lies are the truth and the truth is about a bunch of lies. 
     But apparently "Hello Kitty" has been gaslighting the public too (excerpt from the article):
     ... one sketch, in particular, managed to capture this dizzying political moment by thoroughly conceding to its absurdities. The setting: an employee training at a Sanrio store in New York City. The players: two store managers who were familiarizing four new hires with Sanrio’s “official Hello Kitty story.” Among the facts that the managers insisted on: Hello Kitty is “a human little girl.” She has a boyfriend named Dear Daniel, who actually is a cat. She is in the third grade. She is also, somehow, 48 years old.
The sketch was, on its face, a skewering of the ever-expanding Hello Kitty commercial universe, which features many of the clichés of modern marketing: “collabs,” children’s goods sold to adults, ludicrous brand extensions. A good portion of the “facts” the managers shared in the sketch were real claims that Sanrio, Hello Kitty’s parent company, has made: The company really does argue that its flagship bit of IP—whiskered, pointy-eared, and surnamed Kitty—is a human girl. Its website really does insist, earnestly and somewhat militantly, that she was born in the suburbs of London, and that she “lives with her parents and her twin sister Mimmy who is her best friend.”
     
And then there is a link to the Saturday Night satire on this bit of marketing ploy: link to the video HERE.

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