Note: these posts are specifically designed for issues that scapegoats encounter. Scapegoating on a family level generally happens in alcoholic families, narcissistic families and sociopathic families. Someone is usually singled out to blame for faults or experiences that do not belong to the scapegoat, and are most often a projection of the one doing the blaming.
Most scapegoating is done to keep the blame off of themselves and to give it to another family member. It is done to keep the reputations of other family members clean, and to "keep up appearances" socially, or within their community, or within an extended family.
It is to create the illusion that the problems they have never exist within themselves, but belong to one member only.
Scapegoating in the latter two kinds of families is usually a form of severe abuse because the scapegoat is most often not just abused by one person, but by others. The person who started the abuse and blaming either tries to recruit others to blame and abuse the same scapegoat, or when siblings do something wrong and do not want to face punishment from their parent, blame the same scapegoat that the parent has.
In other words, it is a form of mob bullying.
Around 90 percent of scapegoats from narcissistic and sociopathic families eventually leave their families, or family members kick them out and the scapegoats never return, or family members threaten and bully a scapegoat enough that they fear for their safety or life.
* For Scapegoats of Narcissistic Parents: "I'm being invited back into my family after being estranged, and I'm pretty sure my parents are narcissists. Have they changed? Is this an apology or something else?"
* Do Scapegoats of Narcissistic Parents Get an Inheritance? Are There Any Statistics on This Phenomenon?
* Does the gray rock method work for family scapegoats? Scapegoat survivors weigh in.
* A Psychologist Speaks Out About People Estranged From Their Family, and Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Speak Out About Suicidal Thoughts, Scapegoating, and Losing Their Entire Family of Origin
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