A Short Update

Hi everyone who has been reading my blog,

First:

For those of you wondering if I will be covering Borderline Personality Disorder as part of my discussions on the subject of abuse and manipulation, yes, but please understand that many Borderlines are not abusive or manipulative and can be more self harming, and suffering though life instead. Some of them have very little to nothing in common with the more aggressive styles of Cluster B personality disorders; others have more in common with them.

Some of this has to do with the fact that there are several sub-types of Borderline Personality Disorder. It's a complicated subject because of the sub-categories, and especially because Borderline Personality Disorder can be comorbid with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Dissociative Identity Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, substance addiction, and more. In other words, the subcategories and comorbidities make discussions about Borderline Personality Disorder complicated, and one individual diagnosed with it can be drastically different from another diagnosed with it.

The behaviors are not as predictable as Narcissistic Personality Disorder, for instance.  

I've been nudged about covering it, and so I will make an effort at starting the project sometime in the Autumn because I've got posts in the works that I would prefer to finish and publish.  

Second:

I will also be covering alcoholism when it comes to aggression.

Also the role of guns in domestic violence.  

Some upcoming posts that play a huge role in narcissism:

- How envy, jealousy and competitiveness are often an over-looked cause of narcissistic abuse, grandiosity, and why narcissists try to break apart your relationships 

- Sadism as a negative form of narcissistic supply, plus a little on why jealousy plays a part in it. 

- How over-reactive rage with shame can cause a downward moral spiral in narcissistic abuse. 

There will also be some shorter posts having to do with narcissistic abuse: co-bullies and enablers of narcissists; the tricks narcissists use to lure you into a cycle of abuse with them again; how narcissists try to get you into a role where you are seeking approval; arrogance and grandiosity in narcissism; and common things narcissists do to upset you.

I was working on a post having to do with estrangement in the family last summer, but discovered it was much too long, so I dropped it for the time being in favor of the other three subjects I talked about above. 

Third:

I have been jotting down notes on research having to do with relationship trends in the newest generation attending college. For the first time in history, a majority of college students are saying that they feel just as comfortable alone, if even more so, than in any kind of relationship. They are being brought up to succeed at a career and there is very little emphasis in childhood and adolescence on interconnectedness and relationship-building with others, making friends, establishing trust bonds, solving conflicts, having family get-togethers, and how to address the feelings of others. There is other research that many of them feel safer alone than with their families. One wonders what is going on there. Older generations who are part of these research projects often say they are at a loss as to how to relate to the younger generation, how to re-establish lost connections (and even contact) with children and other young family members, and that the younger generation feels it is less important to establish connections and re-connections compared to setting good boundaries in relationships.

It is surmised that this is all caused by a growing narcissistic culture as almost all psychologists agree that narcissism is on the rise in America.  

I'm also exploring other cultural topics.  

This is just to keep my readers up to date on what my intentions are and what I am working on.